by Therese Ryan
The Enneagram is a powerful psychological and spiritual system which helps us recognise our ingrained patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. Decades ago, when the Enneagram began to be widely taught, type patterns were something to be gotten rid of. Now, in the Enneagram world, it’s all about understanding, appreciating and befriending our type patterns. And this is where I get very excited about how the Enneagram and Focusing compliment each other and invite us into a deeper relationship with ourselves.
Discovering my Enneagram type was the beginning of an ongoing exploration of the mainly unconscious survival strategies that helped form my personality. I lead with type six patterns. There are certain themes that resonate for everyone who lives with these patterns – doubt and anxiety among many others. And yet my lived experience of my “sixness” is unique to me, to my inner world.
Sometimes it seems that there’s nothing new for me to know about doubt. Focusers, however, understand that what our body has to say about who we are and how we are is often a surprise. When I take this word, doubt, freshly inside, Focusing makes it possible for me to peer into doubt’s dusty corners, to teeter at its edge and to discover something in me that’s strong and assured, an inner platform of support. In this way, the felt sense of a familiar theme is a doorway to who I am beyond my patterns.
We encounter our Enneagram patterns in all areas of our lives and of course they show up too when we Focus, perhaps in our anxiety about doing it “right”, or the gush of overwhelming emotions, or the difficulty in sensing into the body at all, or the push to get somewhere. Understanding my Enneagram patterns has helped me recognise and understand what gets in the way of me being present, not just when I Focus but in life.
The Enneagram unflinchingly points out our blind spots too. My suspicion for example, has been difficult to honestly acknowledge and yet Focusing enables me to attend kindly to whatever I discover within myself. My patterns often feel fixed and limiting, a block to my living process and yet through Focusing I’ve come to trust that that they too hold an implicit intricacy which offers freedom.
Both the Enneagram and Focusing see each person as a living process, always changing, longing to live life forward. Focusing with the Enneagram has enhanced my experience of both. Together they offer a way to navigate life. The Enneagram is a map showing us where we are, how we get stuck and pointing us in the direction of growth. Focusing is the compass that helps us find our way.
